Fully accepting yourself might be a real challenge. It is usually much easier to treat others with kindness and compassion than yourself.
Why is it so difficult to approve of yourself? I guess we were told early enough what we should do and who we should be, and when we “fail” to meet all those requirements, we just start to criticise ourselves. The more we do that, the more we spin the wheel of negative thoughts about ourselves.
What does lack of acceptance do to our lives? Well, people who don’t accept themselves:
Don’t believe they deserve to be loved
Constantly criticize themselves
Get into relationships that are not good for them
Create illnesses in their bodies
Don’t feel accepted by others (how could they since they don’t even accept themselves?)
Does any of the above sound familiar?
If it does, that’s good! Now you are self-aware that you also lack self-acceptance. Self-awareness is the first step to make a change. Now is the time for you to decide that you do want to make this change in your mind and in your life.
Why you want to make this change happen.
People who really accept themselves:
Build healthy relationships with others
Let themselves make mistakes, knowing that mistakes are just a part of the learning process
Treat themselves with love and kindness
Naturally take good care of their body, nurturing it with healthy food and physical exercise that they like
Choose and get careers that they are actually passionate about
Ok so you want to accept yourself as you are, but how to do it.
Here are three simple steps that you can take today.
Set an intention that from now on you are going to change your thoughts from those of blame and self-criticism to those of kindness and acceptance towards yourself. It might seem easy but setting a conscious intention comes with a lot of self-empowerment. Do it and you will quickly know what I mean.
Celebrate your strengths and your victories. Know your strengths. Even make a list of them. Put down everything that you like about yourself. There can be things like “I like helping others” or “I am a good listener.” You will realise quickly how intelligent, kind and creative person you are. After a month or two, read it again and I am sure, you will add more things to the list. What we focus on, grows.
Choose carefully what kind of people you surround yourself with. People around us do influence our thoughts and our mindset. Therefore it is really important to be conscious of what kind of people are close to you. Make sure you choose people who really support you on your journey towards self-empowerment.
Imagine how powerful and self-confident you will feel once you incorporate these simple exercises into your daily life. Start today and message me in a month to share your success story.
If you want to accelerate the process of accepting yourself, get started today by booking a free 20-minute call with me here.