We all face various disappointments and failures in life. Our life is not always a bed of roses. We cannot always control what happens but we can always choose how we react.
It is also true about how you see your past events that you can be upset and become a prisoner of your own anger and sadness. Alternatively, you can treat your past experiences as a learning experience.
For a moment, think of someone who you consider successful, someone who doesn’t give up even when everything goes wrong. Someone who seems to learn from the past and move on to build a future that they dream of. If you don’t know such a person, think of someone famous who you admire.
Once you have chosen someone, imagine this person speaking about their life and different experiences. See them in your mind’s eye. Hear their voice. Notice their invincible spirit in every sentence that they say. Notice their enthusiasm for life. How do you think someone like this keeps their upbeat attitude for life? How does someone like this overcome their failures? How does this person leave their past behind and move on?
You can always choose the perspective on a given situation. You are not always in control over everything that happens around you. But you are always in control of your thoughts and feelings. Let’s say you lose your job. You can become depressed and treat it as a failure or you can treat as a stepping stone towards an even better job. A job that would enable you to share your talents with the world in an even more satisfying way. While you are focusing on your future, you are gently starting to let go of your past.
Now think of something from your past that has been bothering you. Something that put an unnecessary burden on your shoulders. Then reflect on a different perspective that you might decide to choose. What kind of a lesson you can learn from that past experience? Maybe there was a silver lining somewhere underneath the past pain and disappointment? When you find a different perspective that is making you more empowered, notice how it makes you feel. Did you notice more lightness and optimism in you?
Although you cannot control everything that happens around you, you can always control how you view things and how you react to them. Make it your superpower.